To change behavior, there must be a certain degree of agency. If there is no influence in the outcome, there is no point to change.
The residents of my current city are great. Rugged, hard working and mostly respectful of their fellow human beings.
But when you move to a different city, one of the things you need to get accustomed to, is the way people drive.
My daughter says that -in this city- there are those who know how to merge, and those who don’t. I am not so sure about that.
What I have been able to observe is two distinct camps: the ones who have the back of their cars plastered with “coexist” stickers or alike, and the ones who have a more ‘every man on his own’ kind of approach to life.
Now that, brings me to merging. Whether you merge gently, or rudely cut in front of the “coexist” person, they just let you in and seem to assume that’s the price for the use of a common good, like the freeway. On the flip side, if you cut off, and even if you merge gently in front of one of the later ones, they WILL block you, and -if you insist- honk at you.
This takes away all your agency in merging properly. Why bother? So maybe my daughter got it right after all.