We may want to think that we follow those who align with the way we think, but the opposite may also be true. Who we follow, defines us. Either for someone observing us looking from the outside, or by slowly changing the way we think.
Who we select as our leaders, says something about us. If we don’t align with their vision. If we would not like to be called their followers, and if their leadership does not serve us in some way; perhaps we should stop following them, especially if doing so causes us pain and suffering.
Otherwise, we should not complain if we get called one and the same.